December 2011
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[TW] MYTH: Gay men and lesbians deserve to be...
Many members of society believe that homosexual people deserve to be sexually violated because their choice of sexual partners is seen as being unnatural. The trauma experienced by a homosexual person is no different to that experienced by any heterosexual person.
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[TW: Sexual assault] MYTH: Sex offenders have a...
Research has shown that only five percent of rapists can be classified as being mentally ill. Most sex offenders are, in fact, seemingly normal men who are seen as fit to carry responsibility at work, in the home and more generally in society. This belief that a mental illness causes sex offenders to commit these crimes means that people are generally reluctant to view a seemingly normal person as...
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“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts,...”
– Charles Bukowski (via dividesky)
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[TW] MYTH: Men rape for sex.
Only one aspect of sexual violence is about the sex. Sexual violence is more about power and control. A sexual offence occurs because someone wants exert control over someone else and sexual behaviour is used as the medium for this. It is through the act of forcing someone else to do something against her will that a sexual offender gains a sense of power. This gives the offender the opportunity...
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“A lubricated vagina does not mean that a woman consents to sex. Having a...”
– Rape Crisis Cape Town Trust Statement on the #itsnotrapeif Twitter phenomenon |
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“It was over, but inside, I felt like the worst person alive. I was so upset...”
– http://myfirsttimesa.com/
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MYTH: Once a man is sexually aroused he is unable...
We all know what it is like to get sexually excited to the point where there is nothing we want more that the complete the sexual act. We are all able to choose to stop there and wait for the feeling to subside (which most of us have done at some point). In a typical respectful relationship, while the one partner may want to continue and feel resentful, they have no right to insist on any sexual...
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“I’ve always felt that sex should be something intimate and beautiful. It should...”
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The Truth About Kinky Women →
This was written in response to a FetLife post. The poster was wondering why no one was responding to his profile or his entreaties to be invited to parties.
You want to meet a girl that you can explore your kinky side with. That’s wonderful.
Let me ask you something:
Do you have a match.com or OK Cupid a profile that says “I’m a guy. I’m looking for a girl. If you’re a girl or know a...
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“You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by...”
– Audrey Hepburn
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“I don’t care what you’re doing or how old you are or who it’s with, if a girl...”
– My mom, to my younger brother. (via rose-colored-sunglasses)
This is DEFINITELY something that should be included in the sex talk and in sex education.
(via fuckyeahsexeducation)
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“If you think internet anonymity is a license to act like a racist, sexist,...”
– - Zachary Levi, VGA 2011 (via seraix)
+1 for being Zachary Levi
+1 for being awesome
+1 for “gooch”—a usefully goofy, non-gender-specific term for genitalia that I can use to supplement ‘nads….finally!
(via downlo)
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VenusPlusX: Polyamory As A Family →
venusplusx:
I’m a queer transman in a polyamorous relationship; specifically, I’m a part of an open quad. I have 3 partners, and the four of us are all in various kinds of intimate relationships with one another. Some are sexual, some not so much, some not at all, but we’re all equal partners in love and…
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“Rape culture is the idea that only certain people rape — and only certain people...”
– Melissa McEwan
Rape culture — bad for you, bad for me, bad for everyone | Thought Leader
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First Person: 'We're married, we just don't have... →
Despite not being physically attracted to other people, Paul Cox, 24, explains how he and his wife found love and happiness as an asexual couple
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“Eight percent of college men have either attempted or successfully raped. Thirty...”
– Margo Maine, Ph.D. (Body Wars)
There was a time that, as a person of the male persuasion, seeing this quote made me really mad. It made me mad that women would assume that I was a rapist; it made me mad that rape was becoming ‘my problem’; it made me mad because, frankly, I didn’t think it was...
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“You could be walking down Fullerton Avenue at 3 in the morning, drunk and...”
– Chicago Rape Crisis Hotline
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Porn vs the real world II
Part 1: http://a-blog-called-everything.tumblr.com/post/13750266215/a-copy-of-porn-vs-the-real-world
Porn World: A woman and man are fooling around. The man initiates penetrative sex, or some other sex act. The woman says "No. Don't." The guy says "Come on. You know you want to." and does not stop what he's doing. The woman changes her mind and the two have sex.
Real World: When the woman says "No," that's exactly what she means (unless she and her partner have discussed this scenario beforehand and therefore have a safe word that really does mean "No") and if the man continues, he is sexually assaulting/raping that woman.
Porn World: Eyes on the camera.
Real World: Eyes on your partner.
Porn World: People see sex as an end in itself. The goal is orgasm.
Real World: Some people see sex as a means to express love for one another. The goal is intimacy.
Porn World: Penetration is the entire point of sex. You get past everything else quickly--except maybe the oral sex part for him--to get to banging, which should last as long as possible.
Real World: PLEASURE, not penetration, is the point. Penetration is great, but when it goes on for too long, women can get sore. It also doesn't involve direct stimulation of the clitoris, so while it's pleasurable, it may not be her favorite.
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The stories we tell about sexuality →
Be sexual, or not, in the ways you want to be. Be informed. Check in with yourself. Honour your desires, your body, yourself, and the desires, body, and self of anyone you share them with. Love, sex, and romance are about being lit up with a deep joy, and silly fun, and building glorious structures inside yourself. Nobody should be able to make you feel anything less than wonderful about...
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Fuck morning classes. Fuck early work. Fuck...
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The Twice-Victimized of Sexual Assault -... →
Nearly every woman I know can recall one or more instances in which she was sexually assaulted, harassed, threatened, inappropriately touched or even raped. Yet few told anyone about it at the time, or reported it to the police…
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“Why are so many people getting divorced today? It’s because most of us don’t...”
– Kurt Vonnegut, God Bless You, Dr. Kevorkian (via whylovememylove
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Who said the nuclear family was the best way to raise a child?
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