November 2011
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“I sometimes visualize the ongoing cycle of racism as a moving walkway at the...”
– Beverly Daniel Tatum - “Why are all the black kids sitting together in the cafeteria?” (via newanddifferentsun)
Also true of cisexism, heterosexism etc.
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“The word transgender never needs the extraneous “ed” at the end of...”
– Transgender or Transgendered? - The Huffington Post Guilty :S I never knew there was a difference. I need to go change my tags.
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“THE THIRD AGREEMENT: DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
We have the tendency to make...”
– From The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz.
This is probably the agreement that shakes me the most. Becuase I have assumed a lot in my life, and it has indeed caused me drama.
(via fulgurous)
WHY is this one so hard of me to let go. it’s almost instinct to do so, but at least now i realize...
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i am a raccoon and also a cat.: Allyship= →
adailyriot:
Fighting WITH not FOR targeted communities
asking targeted communities HOW you can help rather than assuming how you can help
Standing up for targeted communities when asked to do so
You are an ally only when the targeted communities call you that, ally is not a title that you bestow upon yourself.
dumbthingswhitepplsay:
Adding: —Accepting if you fuck up with no...
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“[TRIGGER WARNING: misogyny, rape culture] ‘Cause the thing is, you and the guys...”
– My brilliant friend Kate Harding: http://kateharding.net/2007/04/14/on-being-a-no-name-blogger-using-her-real-name/ (via sanitywatchers)
That was a pretty powerful quote…listening all the things guys joke about (because, really! It’s all “just jokes!”) is almost triggering. But this quote is...
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“I personally find it very difficult to tell the difference between love and...”
– How do you tell the difference between love, lust and close friendship? | formspring.me (via kaerast)
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putting poly in perspective: Poly Myers... →
Myers Briggs of Poly Styles
“Speed” axis: How quickly do you form connections/relationships in general? Fluid- more rapid in forming emotional and/or sexual connections. Growth- deliberate in forming emotional and/or sexual connections. Static- slow moving in forming emotional and/or sexual connections.
“Structure” axis: How would you describe your ideal poly relationship structure? ...
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“Rape culture is telling girls and women to be careful about what you wear, how...”
– I might just copy and paste this so I can have this perfect answer ready when people say things like “but how does this “rape culture” actually affect women?” (via holdmecloser-tonydanza)
Rape culture is the reason I am so fucking paranoid.
(via madamedevideoland)
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Scary Bible Quotes, NIV →
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More Than Two →
fuckyeahpolyamory:
This is yet another incredible website filled with resources for everyday life. Books on polyamory, a weekly podcast, links to different online communities, an FAQ, and several resources (with cliche titles, but don’t judge!)
Hope this is helpful for at least a few individuals :) We’ll continue trying to find helpful resources for our followers
Love Infinite <3
This is...
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“If you’re gonna have pizza with someone else, what do you have to do? You gotta...”
– NY Times: Tea
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“The ultimate ignorance is the rejection of something you know nothing about and...”
– Dr. Wayne Dyer (via knowapower)
text book definition of my previous attitude on poly, as well as other subjects. although i’m more seated in this one issue, i won’t claim to be ‘cured’ of all my ignorance(s) but currently my mind and heart are open to learning/understanding and regardless of the...
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A Queer One From The Start: Nonmonogamy →
metapianycist replied to your post: metapianycist replied to your post: Monogamy makes…
I don’t think that it is unjustifiable to feel uncomfortable with the idea of a sexual partner going and having sex with another person. I don’t think that asserting boundaries like that (whether re: sex or intense intimacy) is inherently coercive.
outlawroad:
People feel uncomfortable, but why?...
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feminist slut: [TW: Rape] Isn't it funny that we... →
If I was to steal a chocolate bar because it was sitting at the counter looking all tasty, it’d be theft. Nobody would say but oh, look at the creamy picture on the packaging. It was taunting him. He had no choice. It was instinct. Impulse. Drives and desires beyond his control.
If I walked into some person’s home and said I lived there, I’d be arrested. Nobody would say to the owners that...
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Sexual Harrassment and Creepy Guys
NOTE: This post is focused on harassment by cis men against cis women. It is not meant to erase other people’s experiences or suggest that this is the only type of harassment that occurs. It just happens to be the type which I can relate to the most as a cis female. In addition, I feel the relationship between power and gender roles makes gender relevant to this discussion.
I think most...
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Dear Facebook: Our identities don't fit in your... →
Sign this petition if you are sick of the erasure of assuming binary gender.
“Dear Facebook,
I urge you to formally recognize the millions of people worldwide whose genders go beyond male or female by allowing other gender identities in Facebook’s profile fields. It’s a simple but significant change that would allow trans and gender variant users to be visible, recognized...
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Dumb Things White People Say: A friend made a... →
moononwaters:
sanaatamir over at their blog wrote:
Also, I do count asexual aromantics as “queer enough” and not just because I am one myself. There is, after all, no arbitrary amount one needs to be “oppressed” to count as queer, as that is neither in the definition of “queer” itself as a sexuality, or the fine print that folks like to pretend exists whenever convenient.
I want to...
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“Give your children words, about themselves, and their body. Naming is powerful....”
– somaticstrength. Your innocence will not save you: conservative Christianity and childhood sexual abuse. Trigger warning: childhood sexual violence/abuse. (via feminismduh
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STFU, Rape Culture!: I think I need some backup →
nygis:
Possible rape triggering below, please be advised.
“Eventual” consent is not true consent, in regards to having sex. Coercion and emotional manipulation are as bad as physical force. Anything less than 100% consent without pressure to consent from others is rape.
stfurapeculture:
You are absolutely correct. Coercion is not only physical. It can take the form of emotional...
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“I love having an empowered girlfriend. Is that sexist?”
– My boyfriend (lol)
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Watchthe-mtblog:
Jon Stewart took to The Daily Show last night to talk about the Penn State child sexual abuse scandal, and gave a serious commentary about how people knew of Sandusky’s abuse and didn’t do anything, as well as the recent student rioting over the firing of coach Joe Paterno.
[thedailyshow]
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Book Review: How Dangerous Men Think
I have just started reading How Dangerous Men Think and so far I have mixed feeling about it. It is a self defense book designed to help women protect themselves from men in cases of sexual harassment, sexual assault and rape. It focuses on the psychology of these dangerous men and gives strategies to handle various situations. I have two main criticisms. The first is that, even though this book...
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“When one woman puts her experiences into words, another woman who has kept...”
– Carol Christ 